Today, I paid a visit to the clinic where my mum usually goes to collect my medicine on behalf of me. The reason why I dropped by at the clinic myself today is because the psychiatrist insisted to meet me recently.
I guess God has His plan for me. This arrangement for me to visit the clinic turned out to be a rewarding one. I has learned more about myself.
Here it goes….
When your relationship with someone is maintained solely by you…
meaning you are always the initiator
or the proactive party who sends endless messages or whatever to the other every time
You need to watch out
Love has turned into obsession
and obsession is not love
When you are obsessed,
you only think of what you can do for him
what can you do to sacrifice for him
and what does he need to give you in return
You will focus so much on sacrifices
that you don’t realize that you are sacrifice for yourself, not him
You are doing the sacrifices to get self-worth
You indulge yourself in self-absorption
that you can only see your feelings and thinking
Even when your action hurts someone
you proceed with the destructive behavior
when others remind you about your selfishness
you will dismiss it or feel surprised
You need to step back and look at the whole world
instead of just your own reality
Now, I realize that some of the problems in my life are tied with my mental disorder
I am glad that this visit to the clinics has raised my awareness
I shall learn more about psychology and myself
instead of just dependent on medication
Some solutions to try out if you are obsessed:
Give up on any communications or chances of contact with the emotionally unavailable partner. Stop all correspondences. If he doesn’t stop, you need to stop all this. Even slight communication can create false hope for you to be obsessed again.
Try to dissociate your important life goals from the person. You can achieve your life goals on your own without his presence. He is a separate entity from your life goals.
Don’t try to contact him just to clear the sadness/loneliness in your heart. The more you contact him, the deeper you will fall into the obsession trap, the worse you will feel. In the end, you will feel regret. You gain nothing but consolation treatment which will be short-term.
Mourn. Mourning is the hardest part. We tend to continue with the obsession just to avoid the mourning stage. Mourning is actually good. There is not positive or negative feeling. All good and bad feelings are good tools in our life. Our feelings tell us about our status and lead us to where we should be heading. If you feel sad or bad with him, it is time to make a move.Your feelings are the best teacher if you try to understand them.
Obsession, if to a serious extent, it can turn into a crime or harassment.
You are not only destructing yourself but also others.
When love turns into obsession, it is no longer love.
Love should be out of richness
Love is support
Love is respecting people’s wishes, dreams…
Love is seeing people’s smiles
Obsession blinds you to all this
Being schizophrenic doesn’t mean you will fail at all things
Many schizophrenic patients are functioning excellently in all areas of life
If you let obsession take over, you will lose every well-managed aspect of your life
It doesn’t worth it when obsession makes your malfunctioning
you deserve a better choice of life